Price: $0.00
(as of May 21, 2025 18:44:38 UTC – Details)
New York Times Best Seller
“This book is a gift! I’ve been practicing their strategies, and it’s a total game-changer.” (Brené Brown, PhD, author of the number one New York Times best seller Dare to Lead)
This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men – and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life.
Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things – and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. How can you “love your body” when every magazine cover has 10 diet tips for becoming “your best self”? How do you “lean in” at work when you’re already operating at 110 percent and aren’t recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you’re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish?
Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against – and show us how to fight back.
In this audiobook, you’ll learn:
What you can do to complete the biological stress cycle – and return your body to a state of relaxationHow to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustrationHow the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies – and how to defend yourself against itWhy rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnout
With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful exercises, all women will find something transformative in this audiobook – and will be empowered to create positive change. Emily and Amelia aren’t here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self-care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of “having it all”. Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are – and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach.
Named One of the Best Books of the Year by Book Riot
“Burnout is the gold standard of self-help books, delivering cutting-edge science with energy, empathy, and wit. The authors know exactly what’s going on inside your frazzled brain and body, and exactly what you can do to fix it. Truly life-changing.” (Sarah Knight, New York Times best-selling author of Calm the F–k Down)
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
Customers say
Customers find the book provides great information on dealing with stress and anxiety, offering fantastic tools for managing daily and extreme stress. Moreover, they appreciate its accessibility, relatable content with vivid metaphors, and its focus on women’s experiences. Additionally, the book offers reasonable strategies for managing burnout and is well-paced, with one customer noting how the authors artfully weave science throughout. However, some customers mention the book contains mostly bitterness.
Beguiled By Books –
Important for EVERYONE, not just women to read!
The word burnout crept up in my everyday use since 2019 – and then the pandemic hit. No travel. No casual shopping. No conferences. None of the usual ways to break up the days. Burnout, especially at work, snuck up on me. Much like my own burnout, Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, snuck up on me too.”First coined as a technical term by Herbert Freudenberger in 1975, “burnout” was defined by three components:1. emotional exhaustion—the fatigue that comes from caring too much, for too long;2. depersonalization—the depletion of empathy, caring, and compassion;3. decreased sense of accomplishment—an unconquerable sense of futility: feeling that nothing you do makes any difference.Written with women in mind, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle talks about the big and little stressors we experience daily – from the patriarchy (ugh) to the “second shift” most women have after work at home (house chores, caregiving). Compared to what it’s like to be a woman, what’s expected of women creates burnout without even realizing it. The authors discuss the Bikini Industrial Complex and the microaggressions women regularly experience for not looking, acting, or speaking in a certain way.Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle goes on to discuss how to complete the stress cycle. When we experience fight, flight, or freeze responses, our bodies react to those chemicals even though we are rarely in actual life-or-death experiences. The problems arise when we experience those reactions and don’t get the fulfillment of knowing we are no longer in a life-or-death situation.Too many women, especially women of color, grow up with unconscious biases about how we should behave, which is only exacerbated by others around us with unconscious biases. Before you know it, we’re working ourselves too much, developing physical symptoms from a life of microaggressions and minor stressors, and we reach a breaking point. A part of this book encourages you to be aware of times in your life when you need to move on from whatever is causing you stress.I appreciate a great deal about this book, but I loved how the authors didn’t promise your burnout will magically go away if you take luxurious baths every night or try and “lean in” at work more. The premise of Burnout empowers us to accept ourselves exactly as we are and know that we are enough.Buy Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle because we all need to work on unconscious biases around women at home, work, and in the world.
KMac –
Excellent, Insightful, and Impactful Book
Burnout is always a word that is thrown around, but not one that we spend much time exploring. This book explores burnout, combines stories and research to effectively share insights, and offers reasonable strategies for managing burnout.
Amazon Customer –
Best book you’ll read as an adult woman
This book is everything. I’ve recommended it to every woman I’ve come across in my daily life that I think might benefit from reading it (translation: every woman I’ve come across in my daily life). I read it in under a week because it was really enjoyable and I made the time to do so (I was disappointed when it ended!!). I’ve reread it a second time and keep it on my desk as a constant reference and reminder of the topics addressed.The writing is approachable, fun, and relatable. They make the science-y bits easily digestible, the philosophy bits graspable, and the patriarchy (ugh) bits smashable. The topics covered are so universal for women in the 21st century that you really feel like they get it; it’s so nice to have your suspicions about some of your interpersonal interactions and society as a whole validated.This was my first experience of “self-help” book, and I loved it so much that I have read everything else Emily Nagoski has written (Come as You Are is a game changer and her fiction under the pen name Emily Foster is really great). Can’t recommend this book enough to anyone and everyone. It should be required reading for all women entering the workforce or any higher education; and honestly they should make it a requisite for girls to read before receiving their high school diploma or GED equivalency. Start ’em young so they can spot this stuff along the way and learn to deal with their stress before addressing their stressors!
R. Jones –
Makes me angry
I got this book because I keep getting myself into situations where I am doing too much. This book helps me understand why, but it also gets me angry and it’s a little cheesy sometimes. Overall, it’s good, but it’s bit overhyped.What I want is to stop caring and to feel secure enough to stop constantly trying to prove myself.Instead of helping me reflect on my behaviors, this book blames the patriarchy. Yeah, that is part of the problem, but I can’t control that piece.
CJ –
Great book!
Really helped me understand stress!
Dawn –
Mind blown
I have this on Audible (they narrate it wonderfully) and in paperback. I am a therapist and use the workbook as well. I am pleased that it doesn’t just tell what burn out is, but gives directions on how to combat it.
ST –
What I Wish I Knew Before
This book is brilliant. It’s everything I wish I knew years ago. Every woman should read this. It doesn’t matter if you’re burnt out or not. Talking about stress, how to work through it, and how to understand yourself is vital for everyone’s well being.Many things that I doubted, questioned, and thought it was just me, I learned that research shows it isn’t just me. There’s nothing wrong with you, ladies. If you want to find out more about feeling more connected to yourself and others, I think this book is a good place to start.
C. S. –
Do we really need this much sass?
This book was highly recommended by a friend who said it changed her relationship with stress forever. I heard the authors on Brene Brown’s podcast and it sounded amazing. But I’ve had this book for months and am struggling to get past the third chapter. Both authors are formidable experts in their fields and I loved Emily Nagoski’s book Come As Your Are… but this book is just trying too hard. I cannot handle the amount of sassy quips, personal stories, and random feminist anecdotes (I’m a feminist!) It goes beyond just being conversational or relatable in my opinion – it’s just plain hard to read. There is great information in here that is so valuable but it feels obscured by all these random jokes and cultural references – very disjointed and reads more like a series of Instagram posts than a book. I don’t need my self-help books to be this sarcastic.
Gigi –
After a promising start, the book becomes extremely dull, repetitive, ideological, and goes off the track in unintended direction. it then keep on complaining about things that have nothing to do with self improvement. This book wil probably not help anyone.
Jackie –
This book spoke directly to me. Recommended reading for women especially, at anytime in one’s life– not only when feeling tired and burntout.
Alyce Blyth –
Easy to read, easy to understand, mind blowing realisations
Maria A Acuna Arreaza –
A real life changer.
Alejandra –
It helps me a lot to understand my self and my current mood. I can put my feeling in real context and accept my self with compassion and love. Thanks for writing this book.